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Newsletter #9

A word on relationships...

Hello,

If you haven't been in a relationship for a long time despite a yearning to be, it could be down to one of the following;

  1. Your (unconscious) fear of getting hurt is stronger than your (conscious) desire to be in a relationship - this could be due to being disappointed or betrayed in a previous relationship or relationships, but if often goes back to childhood fears about love and being loved, based on your relationship with your family or your parents relationships with each other.
  2. It's a self-esteem or confidence issue - perhaps deep down you feel you don't deserve to be in a happy relationship, don't feel 'good enough' or simply don't believe you are attractive enough. It's no secret that a good relationship with yourself is the key to a good relationship with others, and this is especially true of romantic partnerships.
  3. There are unresolved issues with your ex - if a relationship ended abruptly, and you experienced real heartbreak then a part of you can be holding onto that relationship or it may be that you came to the unconscious decision 'I will never let that happen to me again', both of which block the flow to someone new entering your life.
  4. Your 'type' isn't really your type - you can unconsciously choose people that aren't really 'available' as it's a safe option (see point 1). If a certain type isn't working out for you it may be worth looking at your motivation for your choice and 'updating your script' to attract someone more suitable for a successful relationship.

The good news is that all of these things can be resolved with the right work. In my practice, when working with clients that are single and looking for love, I often hear things like 'I just can't meet anyone in London' or 'I don't go to the right places', I believe it's much less about being in the right place physically and much more about being in the right place emotionally.

Getting yourself in good emotional shape means you are much more likely to be open to the opportunity of meeting someone and it's also more likely that you'll make a healthy choice too.

What are you waiting for?

Zoë Clews
Senior Qualified Hypnotherapist, NLP & EFT Practitioner

Newsletter #8

Hello,

Up until 15th August I'm offering you the chance of changing two things for the price of one.

You buy one session and you get one free!

Whatever it is that you want to quit, change, improve or enhance Hypnotherapy, NLP and EFT can provide you with the tools and changes you need to make it happen.

Just a reminder of why Zoe Clews Hypnotherapy continues to be one of the leading Hypnotherapists for clients to see in London's Harley Street;

Most of us have more than one thing we'd like to tackle, so if you haven't made the changes you said you would, or are struggling to make them and could do with some extra help, make the most of this Summer Sale...

To your success!

Zoë Clews
Senior Qualified Hypnotherapist, NLP & EFT Practitioner

Newsletter #7

Three Really Effective Ways to Make Yourself Miserable On A Daily Basis.

Hello,

Here's my top three ways to make yourself miserable on a daily basis, it's always good to remind ourselves of these things so we can remember to avoid them;

  1. Constantly compare yourself to others
    Personally I believe comparison shopping is one of the fastest routes to hell, we are all unique and on very personal journeys with very different backgrounds, advantages, disadvantages, circumstances and processes of change and growth. The only person you can compare yourself to really is yourself and how far you've come.
  2. Criticise yourself continually
    Always reverting back to the old classic 'I'm just not good enough' - good enough for whom? Who is this judging panel who decides these things? If they are in your own head it's time to stop giving them so much power!
  3. Insist on perfectionism in yourself and in others
    Human beings aren't perfect - we never will be and you're setting yourself up for an impossible and exhausting task if you try to adhere to unrelenting standards - plus you'll miss out on all the fun you could be having. The thing to focus on is doing what you do competently and well and making positive changes to your life, and being patient with yourself whilst you do it.

If, however , you notice that you indulge in any of these rather unhelpful and frankly painful mental habits on a daily basis and would rather be free, then contact me below.

To your success!

Zoë Clews
Senior Qualified Hypnotherapist, NLP & EFT Practitioner

Newsletter #6

"Someday is not a day of the week" - Author Unknown

The most accurate definition of procrastination I've read is that it's "the irrational delay, aversion or even evasion of a task or action".

So why do we procrastinate? On a basic level everything we do is either the pursuit of pleasure or the avoidance of pain. The avoidance of pain being stronger than the pursuit of pleasure - we may feel it would do us good to begin exercising, but the thought of it is boring and tiresome until we feel so out of shape that it becomes more painful to avoid exercising than go for that run. Paul McKenna calls this our 'tipping point', when it becomes easier to fill out your tax return than avoid putting it off, because the consequences of putting it off are more painful than getting on with it (like receiving a fine!).

Wouldn't it be nicer to be able to do these things without living with the feelings of guilt, anxiety and avoidance that accompany procrastination?

Understanding the unconscious reasons for procrastinating can be helpful; feeling unworthy or having a fear of rejection or failure are some of the most common reasons why people procrastinate and by taking steps to improve your self confidence, you'll end up feeling more motivated to get things done.

It can also be a fear of success, people procrastinate because they are afraid of the success they know will result if they move ahead now. This is because success carries a responsibility with it, and perhaps it feels easier short-term to procrastinate and live on the "someday I'll" philosophy.

If you want help overcoming procrastination then Hypnotherapy can be a fantastic tool for dissolving the unconscious blocks to fear of both failure and success and building confidence, to help ease your path through life.

To your success!

Zoë Clews
Senior Qualified Hypnotherapist, NLP & EFT Practitioner

Newsletter #5

Slave to your cravings?

If you have an addiction or a behaviour that is "costing" you (in terms of health, your appearance, confidence or self respect), and you are struggling to control it, it might be an idea to look at how you are dealing with your cravings, whether it be chocolate, cigarettes, drinking too much or spending money you don't have.

Craving happens, but you choose your response, telling yourself you 'can't' have something instantly makes it appealing, instead remind yourself that you are "choosing not to". Cravings are uncomfortable, but they are not truly painful and all of us have endured experiences or physical pain in life that are of far greater discomfort than a craving.

Cravings are time-limited. Most cravings last between 4 - 12 minutes at the most. If a craving is not acted upon, it goes away. Cravings cannot force you to act upon them, unless you are experiencing a craving at the moment, every craving you have ever had has gone away. Cravings, like most mental states, cannot persist for long even if we want them to, as the nervous system is in constant change.

This is an important point to remember when we are telling ourselves 'I just can't resist eating that second bar of chocolate!".

Remember your cravings are in your control, every time you say 'no' (to the addictive behaviour), you are saying 'yes' to yourself (increased confidence, self respect and a life that's better without it). Make sure it's you running your mind, not the other way round!

For more information on how Hypnotherapy, NLP & EFT can help you turn round addictive behaviours please contact me on the details below.

To your success!

Zoë Clews
Senior Qualified Hypnotherapist, NLP & EFT Practitioner

Newsletter #4

How do you talk to yourself?

The key to our success in life is confidence. Confidence comes from how we talk to ourselves and what we tell ourselves has the greatest of power over our lives.

How do you talk to yourself? For example when you are about to try something new, do you tell yourself "I bet this will be exciting!" or do you say things like "I'll be useless" or "what's the point, things never work out for me anyway".

"If you believe you can, you probably will. On the other hand, if you believe you can't, you probably won't"

We all need our internal voice to help us navigate our way through the world, however far too often we use the power of our self-talk to limit ourselves. Imagine for a few moments you were living in a house with a negative person that continually pointed out all your faults and shortcomings and told you that no matter what you did you 'just weren't good enough'. How long before you kicked this person out? Probably not long! How many of you live with that internal voice every day? Our mind is one place where we do have control and if your inner voice isn't supporting you, then it is time to make some changes and replace the 'voice of fear and criticism' with the voice of 'confidence'. Contrary to popular belief we don't get strong by beating ourselves up, but by talking to ourselves in kind and nurturing ways.

Hypnotherapy can be an excellent tool for identifying the origins of the self-sabotaging inner voice and changing it at a core level as well as reprogramming the unconscious mind with new positive, beneficial suggestions, each session includes tools and techniques to master the 'inner critic', as well as a CD to help reinforce and compound the changes following the session.

When you stop criticising yourself and start cheering yourself on instead, you will not only begin feeling better, but you will get more positive results in every area of your life and you will be growing stronger and more naturally confident each day.

What are you waiting for?

Zoë Clews
Senior Qualified Hypnotherapist, NLP & EFT Practitioner

Newsletter #3

Weight loss - why do so many of us struggle?

Now here's an interesting one.. all we need to do to lose weight is exercise more and eat less, right? Right. But what if it's not that simple?

What if you are an emotional eater? What if try as you might you just can't stop eating chocolate? What if you just can't imagine yourself 'slim'? What if you believe that it's going to be really difficult and that losing weight will mean hard work and sacrifice?

The biggest misconception about losing weight is that it's about 'willpower'. In fact, we have a far greater source of power at our disposal 'the unconscious mind'. We can utilise the unconscious mind in several ways to help with weight loss;

If you are struggling to take control then Hypnotherapy could be just what you need to reach and maintain your ideal weight.

I recently featured in a Hypnotherapy and weight loss article in Junes Spirit & Destiny magazine.

To your success!

Zoë Clews
Senior Qualified Hypnotherapist, NLP & EFT Practitioner

Newsletter #2

A word on 'beliefs'.

Our unconscious beliefs are like 'invisible walls', we often do not know what they are until we keep coming up against them.

Is there anything in your life that you have worked hard to change only for the same old pattern or habit to return? Such as vowing to lose weight and maintain it, not get into 'that' kind of relationship again, stop spending so much money? You may succeed and lose that weight, or stay away from 'that' relationship, or save some money; but slowly find it all goes back to the way it was before.

Consciously we may want to reach and maintain our target weight, meet the right person, experience financial success, but unconsciously there may be fears around these things, often shaped by our early experiences, or an underlying belief that we do not 'deserve' them.

For example - If we have not been in a relationship for a long time and would like to be in one it is because our fear of getting hurt is stronger than our desire to get our needs met.

If our beliefs don't make us happy we need to change them! But this can be hard to do alone. Often we are not aware of what our 'unconscious beliefs' are. And this is where Hypnotherapy comes in. Using hypnosis I work to explore and uncover the beliefs behind the behaviour or patterns that you wish to change, remove and clear any negative or unhelpful beliefs that are not serving you and 'update the script' with positive, powerful suggestions.

Zoë Clews
Senior Qualified Hypnotherapist, NLP & EFT Practitioner


Newsletter #1

Fast forward "your life" to this time next year.

Do you realize that who you are and what you achieve is based on the habits you develop and decisions you make today.

That's right, all that you do tomorrow, is based on what you are thinking and doing today.

However it can be hard to change your behaviour and decisions through conscious will alone.

And this is where Hypnotherapy can help.

Hypnotherapy has a proven record in helping people quit smoking, achieve and maintain weight loss, lose unwanted habits, overcome anxiety and destructive patterns and much, much more. Hypnosis is a master tool and it's use is unlimited.

As a special New Year deal I am offering discounted Stop Smoking sessions until 7th March, from £175 to £125.

Zoë Clews
Senior Qualified Hypnotherapist, NLP & EFT Practitioner